My name is Bethany, Im a US citizen residing in Australia with my 3 year old daughter.
In 2011 I separated from a very controlling and abusive ex. My daughter was about 6 months old when I appointed my now attorney. I have submitted police reports, photos of abuse, letters of character witnesses who have seen him abuse me. I have put my life on hold for 2.5 years fighting for the rights of my daughter.
He has since separation hired people to have me followed, intimidated, threatened and financially abused me. I do not ask for child support as I am fearful it would spark another reason for him to contact me.
I have to date spent $35,874 in legal fees this year alone. The most I got out of that money was a federal court order preventing him from coming to my home, place of work, and contacting me. He has failed on numerous accounts, thus me taking action to “remind” him has also costed me between $600-$1500. Trial is set for May 2015 and that alone is $30,000. We have tightened our purse strings and do not buy or go anywhere, I have turned off cable, internet, home phone, started a garden and making my own preservatives to save some money on costs of living. I have sold, begged and borrowed the money to get what I thought would be justice served and that hasn’t been enough. At this point I am *greatly* concerned I won’t have enough money to see this through let alone protect my daughter from him.
The Family Law Act of Australia doesn’t favor one parent or the other. It is viewed in the courts eyes that the said child will benefit greatly from being involved with both parents. Even if they are in jail.
Yesterday my daughter of 3 told me he takes showers with her and she quote “tickles his doodle” I rang the police, filed a report. The police told me it’s not illegal for a man to have showers with their kids. Fair enough, but at her age, why aren’t you wearing shorts? Why aren’t you letting her wash herself?? A billion questions went through my mind, my lawyer says I can actually suspend custody for an investigation, that costs too much money. I am to the point of realization that this procedure is much larger than I can afford. I need a village, I need vigilantes, I need activists who want to shed some light on child molestation and put him behind bars. Please, anyone who can’t stand injustice in the world I am pleading.
Share with your friends, family, donate what you would spend on a coffee for the day. I need all of you to stand with me against him and people like him with their high handed approach to life and let them know they are most certainly not above the law. This has become a last resort for me. I have done all the things I know to do to keep, save and raise money to keep my daughter safe.
Much Love xx
This is my very good friend from home. She really truly needs help. Please donate if you can and share often.
The latest update is that her attorney sent a letter for him agreeing to not allow 3 year old Maddie to see or touch his genitals. He refused. Since he refused Maddie is still in her mothers care, which is excellent. Now Bethany has to pay for an emergency hearing for her daughters safety. She does not have the funds for this. Please help in any way you can. Please help my friend keep her daughter safe.
Thursday, October 2, 2014 @ 6:56 am
A dragonfly visited me in my work parking lot this morning. Those who know my obsession with dragonflies might realize the message this visit gave me from the universe.
Wednesday, October 1, 2014 @ 8:49 am
So… From a UX perspective Ello seriously sucks. I tried to post about this on Ello and one post disappeared and one post deleted when I attempted to edit it when I noticed the first post disappeared (because I mentioned it in the second).
Anyway, here’s why I think Ello’s UX sucks:
Since Ello is new and claiming to be this sleek new awesome thing I’ve decided to not read any of their documentation, and just do my best to figure out how to use the application.
So how do I change my profile picture?
Is there no way to like a post?
Did they test this text area I’m typing in on Android? Seriously, I can only see a single line of text at a time. If I close the keyboard, I can see the whole post.
Where are tags? Are there tags?
Tuesday, September 30, 2014 @ 5:55 pm
OMG we got another teaser.
I love this pic of slobaum and I!!!
Thank you so so so much veronicasparrow!!!!
Tuesday, September 30, 2014 @ 2:03 pm
In reference to comments on my ello post.
myheartonthefloor it can’t be worth it without you.
ryanjjohn another social media platform. I join them all to get my username.
reallythisguyles why not?
Tuesday, September 30, 2014 @ 1:40 pm